God’s Plan for Marriage

The topic of marriage cropped up at a neighborhood dinner this past Christmas, after they learned that Hubby and I have been happily married 43 years. “What’s your secret?” they asked with both incredulity and admiration.

But one middle-aged couple stated, “We see no point in getting married. And besides,” he added, “I didn’t want her running off with all my money like my first wife did.”

So what is the point of marriage?

That couple voiced a sentiment increasingly common in today’s society. Likely caused, in part, by rising divorce rates and too many examples of marriages gone sour. Does marriage have a point at all in today’s society?

Of the other two married couples present, one had from all appearances, created a marriage based on ‘careers first.’ They live and work in separate nations. No children, because as she pointed out, “How could we raise a family?” While also adding, “We’re not convinced about having kids anyway. Too much work.”

She seemed happy with their career-first choice, and I truly hope she is. I don’t know about him, as he hadn’t yet arrived to join her for the holidays.

Now I don’t mean to criticize anyone’s choices. And I realize that sometimes things fly totally out of our control. But I couldn’t help wondering two things: “What kind of marriage is that? And how should we respond to their comments?”

How to respond to objections?

What response can we give regarding objections to marriage?

Well, we can show that God had and still has, good plans for marriage! That he instituted it as a bedrock foundation for society. And that marriage done his way creates blessings which benefit couples, families, and society, while deviation from it results in heartache and suffering.

God had and still has, good plans for marriage! And marriage done his way creates blessings which benefit, couples, families, and society!

God established marriage as a permanent institution in which man and wife leave their families and join together, (Genesis 2:24). They become as one clinging together for life, (Matthew 19:6). And it is out of this permanent union that God’s rich blessings for couples and families flow.

Seven blessings from marriage God’s way:

1. The gift of Companionship

God comprehends our deep inner longing for companionship. He created Eve because the solitude Adam experienced in the garden was not good for him. And he then presented her to Adam as a gift. A lifetime friend to share with, converse with, and a support for all of life’s ups and downs. Truly blessed is the couple who enjoy this gift!

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24 ESV

2. Mutual love and respect

A truly godly marriage is built upon the love, honor, and respect God wants us to have for each other. And when both spouses seek concrete ways to show these the marriage is sure to last!

“Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart.” – Proverbs 3:3 ESV

3. Loyalty and faithfulness

We have an innate need of stability and someone we can count on to remain faithful. A godly marriage meets this need when both spouses commit to lovingly stand by each other through life. Ruth demonstrated this kind of loyal faithfulness to her mother-in-law, and undoubtedly carried it into her marriage with Boaz. Have you brought such devoted loyalty into your marriage?

“But Ruth said, Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God.” – Ruth 1:16 ESV

4. Unity and intimacy

In marriage husband and wife unite at all levels: physical, emotional, and mental. While still remaining individuals, they share beliefs, values, goals, and purpose. Such intense union requires opening our deepest self to the other person.

Marital infidelity creates such great devastation because in the deepest sense it’s not only a betrayal of trust, but a rejection of our inner person. But a marriage built on God’s plan ensures that the great gift of close union will be treasured and honored, turning such intimate sharing into one of life’s greatest joys and blessings!

“There is no more lovely, friendly, or charming relationshiop, communion, or company than a good marriage.” – John Seldon

6. Strength and help

In this kind of strong union we find strength and help for our journey through life. We have someone to lift us when we fall, to warm our nights, and a help in times of trouble. Someone who will stand with us through thick and thin!

“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. f one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NLT

7. A strong home and family

Following God’s plan for marriage creates a strong, stable home and family. A secure nest in which to cherish God’s great of children. And an environment where they will want to follow in our footsteps, continuing the circle of love that will keep producing the safety and stability our societies so desperately need!

“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” – Psalm 127:3-5 ESV

Marriage God’s way truly is the answer for many ills that plague today’s unsteady and crumbling society. So when asked, “What’s the point of marriage?” share God’s plan for it!

Because, after all, who wouldn’t want so much blessing?

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14 thoughts on “God’s Plan for Marriage

  1. Reblogged this on praise2worshipdotnet and commented:
    I have so enjoyed following Sheila’s blog through this last year. Her perspectives on life and humorous side-notes of life in a small town in Italy have been refreshing and encouraging especially through the pandemic. Yesterday her perspectives on marriage really struck a note in my heart and were so excellently put together that I thought I would share her post with my readers today. Thanks for letting me share this Sheila. Have a blessed day everybody!

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  2. Beautiful post Sheila and better said than I could. I would love to share this over on my blog tomorrow if it is okay with you (I always ask). I guess I could call it Marriage and Christmas in July!

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  3. Thanks for this, Sheila. Pointing out the hope of marriage that God has given us shines brighter than the darkness of despair that embraces so many marriages today. Getting out is too easy. Quitting is too acceptable. Fighting for your mate and marriage seems like a lost art. This is beautiful.

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    1. Thanks Dayle! You’re right, too often we take the easy way out. (And not just on marriage.) I know, from personal experience that God can heal and restore marriage. He did it for us. And he has never left the restoration business!


  4. Beautiful post! The key is doing marriage God’s way. He is the originator and knows what is needed for a happy marriage to succeed. I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we owe that to Jehovah for his guidance and strength. We’ve gone through some tough times together and know we can get through anything with God’s help. One of my favorite scriptures is Colossians 3:12-14 “Accordingly, as God’s chosen ones, holy and loved, clothe yourselves with the tender affections of compassion, kindness, humility, mildness, and patience. Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely even if anyone has a cause for complaint against another. Just as Jehovah freely forgave you, you must also do the same. But besides all these things, clothe yourselves with love, for it is a perfect bond of union.”


    1. Amen, Heather. Those verses from Colossians are indeed key to a good and happy marriage – or any relationship for that matter. God has planned for so much blessing in marriage, but only when we forget to follow his plan and his ways for it. Congratulations on your 15 years together, and I pray you have many more together. We just did 43 in November. God is good!!

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  5. Amen! Very well said. It is very sad to see the state of so many marriages, including “Christian” ones. I have been very blessed with over 27 years of marriage and still going strong with God at the center.


    1. Praise the Lord for your 27 years together, Tom. And you hit the nail on the head. They key is keeping God at the center. May God bless you with many more years with your spouse!!

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  6. If marriage isn’t lived within God’s plan, and if God isn’t truly at the center. Hearts fall into Socialites confusion, on the true purpose of marriage, and the family! May will mark a 32 years testament, for me and my bride! Blessings!

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    1. Yes indeed, with God at the center marriage does turn into a lasting testimony! Advance congratulations for coming 32-year anniversary, and prayers for many more!!


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