9 Timeless Tips For a Strong Marriage

Marriage is a learning process. I’ve found that no matter how long you’ve been married or how great your marriage is, there is always something new to learn. Some area that needs improvement, or things to forgive. 

Hubby and I are celebrating 41 years today. And to us, it’s a celebration of God’s faithfulness. He has helped us stick together and increased our love. And through all these years of trials and blessings, he has taught us much. And we would not be here today if it were not for these lessons!

9 tips for a building strong foundation:

1. Remain united

Many forces are at work, trying to tear down marriage and unity between the couple. Work at standing with and for your spouse. Don’t let other people, outside interests, or even work come between you and that most special person in your life. Nothing and no one should ever be more important than him or her, except God.

2. Kids are temporary guests

Extremely loved and welcome additions to the family, but really only temporary guests. It’s important to love our kids and cherish them. But they’ll be moving on. Our spouse is here to stay. And now that it’s just the two of us, I see even more how important it was to work on keeping communication strong and intimate. Unity is the pivotal foundation.

3. Forgive every day

Everyday there will be things to forgive, both big and small. If unity is the foundation, forgiveness is the cement holding it in place. We’ve seen that with lack of forgiveness, the foundation begins crumbling little by little, and often over little things. A certain look, a word blurted out without thinking.

Why ruin a lifetime of happiness together over small things? And the big things? With Christ’s help, we can forgive even those, just as we want to be forgiven.

4. Don’t try to change your spouse

Stop trying to change your spouse. (Because that’s God’s job.) Our task is to love them unconditionally, while also inspiring them to do better. Encouragement and prayer transforms hearts and minds, and is far more effectual than all the nagging in the world!

And remember that you loved him enough to marry him just as he was. If you wanted someone different, you should have chosen someone else!

Marriage is for keeps. It’s worth keeping and worth the work it takes!

5. Spend time together

Happiness is (or should be) marriage to your best friend. So it’s important to take time to talk and find common interests to share. Especially while children are still in the home, when so many responsibilities eat away at time.

6. Read and pray together

Take time to pray together, and read God’s Word. As Christ followers, we have learned that prayer and the Bible are the two main things that draw us closer to Christ and make us like him. And the thankful heart this cultivates also makes us ever more grateful for gift we have in our spouse.

7. Become a giver and not a taker

Rather than falling into the temptation of thinking about what we want or don’t have, we try to become the one who gives and keeps on giving. To really care about the other’s happiness, and do everything possible to care for and build him or her up.

8. Tend finances carefully

Financial difficulties can bring much stress. So we’ve made a commitment to keeping (or getting) out of debt. And to not spending money we don’t have.

9. Find new things to love

Just as you are growing and changing, so is your spouse. Look for those new and special surprises and improvements, and let them know you’ve noticed! Go out of your way to keep noticing things about your spouse to love!

But mainly, remember that marriage is for keeps. It’s worth keeping and worth the work it takes!

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.

Mark 10:7-9 ESV

Images: Cake by PublicDomainPictures | Ring on tray by TerriC | Graphic made on Canva.

10 thoughts on “9 Timeless Tips For a Strong Marriage

  1. You nailed it, Sheila! A couple can’t go wrong if they follow your advice. We completed 50 years together last summer but will be celebrating this summer with a family reunion–13 of us for three days in one big cabin!


  2. Yesterday I read about Bill Gates and Melinda Gates decision to divorce so I had shared on my watsapp status. Just took your blog to share on my status today.


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